I have been renting an illegal apartment for 7 months now and the people that own the house are the same age as me (late 30's). I get along really well with the wife and 2 daughters and I thought the husband was a nice guy...of only I knew the price I am currently paying for his behavior.
He has been making remarks pretty much since I have moved in such as:
" I wish my wife would dress like you,do her hair & make-up like you"
" Do you ever wear mini skirts?"
" Your so beautiful & such a nice girl...I can't beleive your single" and so on..
He constantly puts his arm around me while saying these remarks or tries to hug me like we are just friends...but I know what his deal is.
1 month ago was the icing on the cake for me.....There was water coming through the ceiling so I called upstairs to see if they were doing any kind of work or plumbing as they have been remodeling and he said no,so I told him about the water coming in and he came down. The minute he opened his mouth I could smell the alcohol and he backed me up against the counter and was basically malling me and hugging me and then put his face into mine as if I was going to kiss him....So I shoved him off and said "What the hell is wrong with you!!" So now the wife comes down because she is concerned about the leak as well so he sent her upstairs to put the dishwasher,washing machine etc, on....Then he began to tell me that while he was out with his dog at 2 in the morning that he was looking in my window and told me every detail of what was going on in my bedroom as my boyfriend was over.
If he was just passing by like he says,How could he go on for 5 minutes and give me every detail of what he saw.
I have a basement apartment with 3 windows which are in the foundation,and there is no way he could have seen anything if he was standing up because the windows are so low to the ground.
So now the wife comes back down and we figured out where the water was coming from and she said..." You haven't seen the floors since we did them over...come see. As we were going up the stairs,she was first I was next and he was behind me and touched my butt and claimed that his head hit my butt on the way up the stairs.
This is a complex situation because I get along with his wife and daughters so well,but I am looking for an apartment as I can longer stay here because it is just to uncomfortable.
Everyone I talk to says don't pay anymore rent or tell his wife.....what do I do?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Hey the rent's cheap and yes, you'd have a good case... but would it be worth if it you had to be raped while you're trying to build your case? No. Make your number one priority be to get out of there immediately. Don't spend good brain power wondering if you have grounds for a "case" or not. Wake up, girl. His wife knows how he is. And in the end she'd probably be pissed at you for it all anyway. You better hook up with the boyfriend and get out. Put the word out that you are a great candidate for a roommate with another female. Search out for other women looking for female roommates. I'm not saying this fits you... but sometimes if you don't feel all that great about yourself and/or are lonely then even negative attention can seem not all that bad. The rush from being afraid can be like a drug sometimes. Don't go there. Get 100% serious about leaving then find a place and go.

To Maroni,
Thanks for your advice....I do have an apartment lined up...just waiting for a move in date which should be around November 1st.
But I refuse to pay him the last months rent because of his inappropriate behavior and had to find another place to live.

great!!! i don't think he'll sue you. sound like he's too drunk and would not give up beer money to pay a lawyer with. good for you. keep in touch...maroni

I have been reading Tenant at will rights,and he wouldn't have a leg to stand on.
First of all it's an illegal apartment and I could just call the IRS and report all the income that he does not declare and secondly,file a sexual harassment case against him. What's he going to do,throw me out? He can't according to my rights and if he wants to get nasty which I don't thik he will,I know plenty of Police officers that would gladly be on my side if need be,as he is in the wrong.
By the way...I am on permanent disability for depression and anxiety,so you can just imagine what this is doing to my nerves!
I am so frazzled & paranoid that he is watching or god forbid there are camera's in here!

i was kidding about him sueing you. i thought you were moving out... why are you worried about him throwing you out then? get out and leave it alone, girl. just be sure you don't get into another rotten situation. that's what you have to worry about. get out of the drama. make sure you don't help to create it. maroni

I am not worried that he will throw me out as he can't by law.
The only problem is that the apartment I am moving into will not be available until November 1st,which means that on Oct 1st I am going to tell him that I am giving him my 30 day notice and will not be paying the last month's rent because of his behavior. I don't think he will make any waves,but he will have to explian to the wife why there is no rent and I will not be the one to tell her....that one is on him. But I do have to stay here for the month of October and hopefully it will be a peaceful month instead of this situation blowing wide open with the wife.

did you pay a deposit when you moved in? this usually covers the last month of someone's rent when they give the 30 notice that they'll be moving out. when you give your notice and tell him how bad he's been do you think that will make him a little angry? do you fear him throwing you out? sure it's not lawful but can you afford a lawsuit against him? what do you think you would get? him having to let you move back in for that last 30 days??? get real. the police can't do anything for you if that happens. that's for the courts to decide which you would have to pay for. can you trust him enough to be fair with you when you give your last month's notice after all you've been through with him. if i were you i'd just stay there until it's time to move out... have most of your things already out... when that month is actually up and it's time to go you'll basically already have everything out. hope you don't have hardly any furniture. i would just be GONE. if you want to mail him any severence pay for leaving at the end of your lease but without notice... then mail him a little "chump change" if it makes you feel better. but i'd consider you both even since you've had to put up with the abuse. i wouldn't be concerned with someone wondering where my rent went. this is about you building a better life for yourself. you're #1. everyone else can just fall out of the way. maroni