Hello,
I have a personal assistant business and we deal with a lot of seniors. This one senior that I have as a client who is 83 years old has beginning stages of Alzheimers. One daughter who lives here locally has POA for medical and the other who lives in CA has POA for financial. She spends close to $780.00 per month on my services depending on the hours used in that month. I take her grocery shopping, pick up perscriptions, take her for rides around town, companionship, clean her house and other things. My client is putting through both of her grandchildren through a major university and is also paying the rent on a apartment, electricity, and so on. She is also paying for everyone in the family to have a cell phone, she is also paying car insurance on two vehicles that she gave to her daughter over a year ago and there are several other expenses that she is paying for besides the ones that I have listed.

It really does not bother her that she is paying all this money out for them but what really bothers her is that they only want me to spend 2 hours tops at her house a week (when she sees no one for 2 to 3 weeks at a time). She asked me last month if I would take her to the ocean on a day trip. We would leave at 9:00 am and come back by 4:00 pm the same day. They said NO WAY!! it would cost too much money. I then decided to ask them if I can take her for free just to get her out of her home for a little bit. They said "only if it is free of charge". My client is getting so frusterated at her daughters because they are trying to control her movements and her money but they can nickle and dime her all they want. They really do not like the idea that I am spending time with her because of the money issue. My client is perfectly fine (at this time) to live in her own home. She does not want to go to an assisted living but they keep threating her that she needs to go.

They have requested that I give them a weekly report of when I enter into the house and when I leave and what we do while I am there. I do this just to make it non stressful for my client and I try to appease the daughters as much as I can. I have to ask permission to take her just about anywhere.

I am getting payment from the daughter in CA. Are they taking this POA too far? and what can my client do about it.

I do feel that someone does need to be in control of those finances because my client does forget a lot but she has her own checking account that she writes checks for groceries on and so forth. Her daughter told her that she is not to write me any checks, that she will write the checks out of my clients main trust account and send it to me.

Sorry to go on and on -- but they are driving me crazy and my client too!!!! What can she do?

Thanks in advance!!