<QUOTE>Posted by tx2step:
well I did use the tough love approach this last time. She came home I told her it was just like in baseball 3 strikes and your out. I stressed to her that we are tired of the games and in effect feel like she's "using" us only when they fight or things arent going "her" way with them then she wants to run home. Long enough for us to tend to her every need. She finds it very simple to lie to us or just leave us without so much a note but cannot seem to do it to him someone who is such a jerk... She left this time and I told her she could not come back. Well I was sticking to that but the thought of that poor baby over there being yelled at even in infancy by this lunatic not having the things he would have here the structure the emotional needs met social needs medical and environmental needs....it just makes me weak. The baby has no toys or anything like he would have if he were here...he has nothing. I had bought all the things for him but that ass wont let my daughter use them hes' such a jerk.... I told her you must stop thinking about YOU. Its not about YOU anymore. Once you are a mother its about the CHILD. I dont know. Im sure if she comes dragging up baby in tow her room is ready and clean....maybe I'll never learn but I'd like to at least make sure the child is raised correctly....loving everyone manners routine and security.... I have to mention we are white my new grandbaby is bi-racial. His father is black. He HATES me and tells my daughter all the time things about being white. They are very hung up on the "white man got the black man down" thing. I find that very out dated and offensive. I know he will instill these values in the child and in my home my kids are taught everyone is to be loved because jesus loves all his children....I have 3 godchildren who are black...my grandchildren are part spanish so I dont have a prejudice bone in my body....it offends me that this guy calls my daughter "cracker" etc and its a shame that if the child is allowed in his life he will surely teach him the same things. Its just not right. I might also add that all his other children are bi-racial. All the mothers are white. I've told my daughter thats because a black woman wouldnt take his kind of treatment five minutes and they'd whip his butt.... Its just a mess I tell you about ready to just let it go if it werent for the innocent child...</QUOTE> I understand completely now God bless you!!!

My previos post is still here describing my situation. Well she called a week ago "come get us hurry" She had escaped him while he was out. She and the baby. They have been here for a week. What now? She lives in fear he will kill her or kidnap the baby... What should she do? He kept the baby SS card in his wallet all the time so she couldnt get it as he and his family thrive on claiming children that dont really live with themon income tax. What should she do? She has limited funds. Whats her next step? If he gets hold of the baby he will run off with him The baby is in hiding right now.

I think your daughter should try contacting a woman's shelter. I'm sure the counselors there deal with this situation all the time and should have many suggestions for her and probably help with carrying out those suggestions. And contact an attorney (another thing the woman's shelter should be able to help with.) Hooray for your daughter by the way. I hope she can soon learn what it is like to not live in fear and insecurity. It is a glorious feeling and she deserves to know it. Take care. my email is kanden70@yahoo.com (I am usually only able to check email during the week since I'm too cheap to pay for the internet at home.)

Thank you kanden. You dont live too far from us. We're taking it one day at a timeso far we've heard nothing from him or his parents. The baby is bright eyed and bushy tailed quite the eater and mom keeps him close to her at all times even sleeps with him...hes definitely a "mamas boy"...cute little baby..