My soon to be husband's ex wife will not let him see his children. He pay's his support, tries to contact them on a regular basis, but she will not follow the parenting time the judge has set for them. He has taken her back to court and he just ends up paying more child support ( $148 week up to $225 weekly) because she comes up with something. I am not saying this as a catty thing, but seriously the lady gets whatever she wants. My fiance is paying a $4300 daycare bill to her that is non existent because she doesn't send the children to daycare. I try to be the peace keeper and be very civil and actually bend over backwards, but she is very rude and refuses to talk to me. She has went so far as NOT putting my fiance on any paperwork allowing him any information from the children's schools and doctors. She has physical custody and they both have joint legal custody. She has blocked me form all social networks and cellphone. I would understand if I was harassing her, mean a total witch to her and/or the children, but I haven't.

This year she went as far as making plans for the children on my fiances birthday so they couldn't spend the day with him.

We had a lawyer, but instead of getting us help, he just got us in more debt. Was very rude because he wanted all his money up front, but when 46% of your take home pay is going to child support, paying it all up front isn't possible.

I am just really frustrated because she is getting away with picking and choosing when we can see the children. She has actually trained the children to say "are you going to baby sit us soon?"

Any suggestions, advice, comments, anything, would be greatly appreciated. We are trying to say friendly, but I am have a feeling if this keeps up, we won't see the children till Thanksgiving!!

Thanks!

Do mom, dad, and kids all live in the same state?

If so, how far away is dad?

What time is dad currently allocated, either in person or via phone/etc in the current order?

Does the current order specify anything about transportation? Is dad supposed to pick the kids up? If so, is he ACTUALLY showing up to get the kids according to the order, and being turned away, or is mom simply either not communicating or saying "no" and then dad doesn't show up? (This will be an important point.)

Can dad substantiate that the kids are actually NOT attending daycare, ever? Expect mom to argue, probably successfully, that the daycare insists on being paid for the "spot", even if the spot is utilized infrequently. Dad can ask that he pay the daycare directly, at least that way he'll know where the money is going, even if he feels that it's a waste to pay for a full month when maybe only a few days are being used. If he hasn't already, he really should ask the court to verify the amount with documentation from the school, or, since dad has joint legal, he should seek confirmation of the amount and attendance from the daycare directly.

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I am in an exact situation with my husbands ex...she has been seeing her new boyfriend for 4 weeks who is in the military and is saying she is taking them w her and him to texas!! Its insane!!