need to know what to do and how to do it

17yroldmotherinneed · #1 01-29-2010, 11:24 AM

ok, so im 17 and i have a 4month old baby my fiance moved to colorodo so he could take a job offer that he got andbeable to take care of me and our child he is 18 a year and8 months older then me, i am wanting to go up there and start taking collage classes but im not sure if i can leave without me or him geting in trouble with the police, or if my mom can stop me. she has already threatend to take my child from me becuase i told her that i was planin on marrying him. and she is trying to keep me from going to work becuase i wont go to job corp. and the only reason i wont is beacuse i have to give tempory custdy to someone because thy dont allow children to live on campus and im not going to do that. so i would really like to move out she has been trying to control the way i take care of my son and myself and everytime i do something that isnt what she wants she threatends to take him away from me and im tired of the fighting and the threats...please help me tell me what i can do

underdog · #2 01-29-2010, 11:39 AM

Unless you are either emancipated by age or marriage your parents say where you live. Any attempt to leave and they can report you as a runawy and your BF can be charged with harboring!

17yroldmotherinneed · #3 01-29-2010, 08:58 PM

but according other people iv talked to and what iv read onhere in the state of texas its 17 if you are through with school. i just need a lawyerr sombody who knows alot

underdog · #4 01-30-2010, 05:48 AM

The go ahead and do that but it doesnt change my reply. I think your going to find out what you heard was wrong

aardvarc · #5 01-30-2010, 07:24 AM

Just because it might be common practice in Texas for law enforcement to not vigourously pursue such cases involving 17 year olds should in NO way make you believe that they CAN'T pursue such cases. Since you are a 17 year old with a CHILD - your situation is vastly different - because while police may feel that YOU are not worth the hassle of dragging back to your mother, they WILL care about the well-being of the baby. Rather than bother with YOU, knowing you'll likely just run again if they take you back to mom, they will most certainly cut things short and make life easier by just taking the baby out of the care of a problematic and unstable juvenile and placing it with family (like your mother). The moment that you, as a minor, step foot out of mom's house, without mom's permission, you risk having the baby taken away. It really is that simple.

underdog · #6 01-30-2010, 07:29 AM

Let me add its not automatic that Police will ignore a runaway 17 year old. Parents can contact Police Chief or local City Officials (elected by voters not teens) and put pressure to find child. Thsi almost always results in Police taking action. Its not as cut an dry as you think

17yroldmotherinneed · #7 01-30-2010, 09:09 AM

ok but one il be in a diffrent state, and two if my son is being taken care of...whitch he is....and i have a decent place to live then they wont have any reason to take my son? right? cps has to have liable reason, like the baby being neglected or abused,or in a bad invoiment, but his mother leaveing home inorder to go to collageto make his life better and start her life isnt liable reason, my son is not neglected and not abused and technaliy i dont live with my mom beacuse she kicked me out i live with my dad who dosnt have any legal rights over me, my mom should be glad that i want to go to school but shes not she has been trying to keep me locked up since i got pregnante so im trying to take it into my own hands so that me and my new family have a good life and thats not a reason to take my child

17yroldmotherinneed · #8 01-30-2010, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by aardvarc

Just because it might be common practice in Texas for law enforcement to not vigourously pursue such cases involving 17 year olds should in NO way make you believe that they CAN'T pursue such cases. Since you are a 17 year old with a CHILD - your situation is vastly different - because while police may feel that YOU are not worth the hassle of dragging back to your mother, they WILL care about the well-being of the baby. Rather than bother with YOU, knowing you'll likely just run again if they take you back to mom, they will most certainly cut things short and make life easier by just taking the baby out of the care of a problematic and unstable juvenile and placing it with family (like your mother). The moment that you, as a minor, step foot out of mom's house, without mom's permission, you risk having the baby taken away. It really is that simple.

and for your info sir i am not an unstable juvenile. i have been takeing care of myself longer then i can rember and two i have been takein care of my son without any help exept by his father,just beacuse i want to leave my contorling mother who dosnt even think that i can take care of my own child does not make me unstable, its me takeing contorl of my life and im offended by the fact that YOU think that. i am the one who bathes, colthes,feeds and loves this child, i amthe one who gets him the things he needs and even the things he dosent when i have the extra money, just because i am not 18 does not mean that i am not cable of taking care of myself and my child

underdog · #9 01-30-2010, 10:09 AM

For your info missy Aardvark is a she! You have no legal grounds ot do what you want no matter how you word it

17yroldmotherinneed · #10 01-30-2010, 10:48 AM

[QUOTE=underdog;105006]For your info missy Aardvark is a she! You have no legal grounds ot do what you want no matter how you word it[/QUOTE/] and what was i wording that i have no legal grounds to? my child? leaveing to go to school? well i do have legal grounds to do what i want with my son.and if i want to leave i really doubt that cps will take my child if he is taken care of, they cant take him from me just because im a minor, they have to prove to the courts that im an unfit mother who neglects him and not being 18 dosnt make me an unfit mother. i dont really care what she is, she offened me by stateing that im an unstable juvenile when she dsnt know anything about me or if im the one who supports myself and my son already. and just beacuse i leave dosnt mean my son will be taken away from me