Hi. Hopefully I can get some advice. Currently I am married to a man that I havent seen in over 3 years. I was just recently able to contact him and he told me that he wants to sign over his rights to the two children involved. There has been NO contact with him whatsoever during this timeframe. The tricky part is.....since we are married how should I go about this? He said that we could do this however I want. He just wants to be rid of me and the kids. I'm trying to get this done as soon as possible before he changes his mind and decides that he wants to make my life more difficult again. Is there a way with doing all of it at the same time without us having to actually meet face to face? I'm horribly confused on what to do.

First you need to file for divorce. Then, both of you need to understand that all he has to do to give up his rights is to simply not exercise them. His RESPONSIBILITY to support his children however, can only be adjudicated by a court, and unless he's been convicted of crimes against children, looking at a long prison term, or some other circumstance that would completely make a court feel he would never have ANY business around the children, odds are that he WILL be ordered to pay child support - even if he never sets foot in the same room with them again. Courts want children to have TWO legal adults who are responsible for them. If you died in a car wreck tomorrow, HE would be responsible for the children. The court will want to KEEP it that way unless you are re-married AND your new spouse wanted to adopt the children, thus becoming the OTHER adult responsible for them.

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